tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30605678428152110982012-02-16T21:04:42.560-05:00Access Denied...Tom Allennoreply@blogger.comBlogger91100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3060567842815211098.post-87231751210172374672008-01-11T14:02:00.001-05:002008-01-11T14:12:17.635-05:00

If you are reading this, it's most likely because you followed a link from some other blog.Unfortunately, I really don't use this anymore, except as a test blog.Despair not, however; here is the link to my real blog:The Edge of VanillaIf you are looking for my stories, this is the link.If you are looking for various posts about male chastity and orgasm control, you might want this link.Well? What

Tom Allennoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3060567842815211098.post-16272779974394996962006-09-04T23:00:00.001-04:002007-01-17T11:44:17.464-05:00

I've noticed a trend in the FLR and related blogs lately, from people who are irritated with that particular genre to which I'm going to refer as the "Clueless Subby Type", or the CST. Picking on the CSTs that seem to populate the D/s forum communities may seem to be like shooting fish in a barrel, and frankly, I'm sure that we'll return to this a few more times in the future. That being the case

Tom Allennoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3060567842815211098.post-90401073979294346822006-09-02T23:51:00.000-04:002006-09-02T23:57:56.052-04:00

There is often a synchronicity in communities, and it's with some amusement that I have seen Richard Evans Lee and now Candace touching on a subject that has also been on my own mind. Candace has an amusingly titled post, sparked to some degree by what I call the "helpful suggestions" sent in by some readers. Richard notes that it's especially a problem for women bloggers, especially women taking

Tom Allennoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3060567842815211098.post-58873452281540913662006-08-28T21:04:00.000-04:002007-01-17T11:45:20.086-05:00

I was tired of my ladyWe'd been together too longLike a worn-out recordingOf a favorite songSo while she lay there sleepingI read the paper in bedAnd in the personal columnsThere was this letter I read...Bob was just out of college and living near the city when he finally had the courage to answer one of the personal ads that he'd seen in the local alternative paper. The keywords that caught his

Tom Allennoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3060567842815211098.post-66792163793840261812006-08-25T16:11:00.000-04:002006-08-25T16:14:22.026-04:00

It's a truism that one of the most asked questions on any sex forum is "How can I get my partner to...?" And while I'd venture to say that it's one of the most asked questions on any forum, I'm going to deal strictly with sexuality.It probably goes without saying that one needs to keep the lines of communication open, but that's pretty easy to say from the safety of my comfy chair. For those of

Tom Allennoreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3060567842815211098.post-16686566332243176152006-08-23T22:40:00.000-04:002006-08-23T23:38:58.397-04:00

I get questions. You get answers.People read my stuff on the various web boards, Usenet groups, and Yahoo groups, and because (I hope) they perceive me to be articulate and sensitive, they email me. These are usually people who tend to "lurk", that is, read those groups without breaking their anonymity to post. They are also usually men. And they usually email to ask me about chastity and orgasm

Tom Allennoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3060567842815211098.post-81253968858637055522006-08-22T16:52:00.000-04:002007-01-17T11:51:25.715-05:00

Orgasm Denial and its cousin, Chastity Play, are kinks tangentially related to BDSM, although they are often practiced by folks who consider themselves to be "vanilla". OD can be practiced as a simple "tease and deny" game, which makes it appealing to both men and women who either don't or won't look at the underlying D/s dynamic.And for the moment, we won't look at it, either.A few years ago, my

Tom Allennoreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3060567842815211098.post-83174042866507368092006-08-06T22:20:00.000-04:002006-08-16T16:26:46.454-04:00

My friends from SSG keep asking about pictures. Here's the scoop: Quite a few months back, I thought it would be cool to get a frenum piercing for my birthday in June. I sort of chickened out, but only by a little. I checked out the various online groups and forums to find which studio in the area was most reliable. I settled on one, Green Man Studios (greenmantattoo.com), and late on Thursday

Tom Allennoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3060567842815211098.post-66766224111488529782006-08-05T12:01:00.000-04:002006-08-16T16:23:05.759-04:00

Okay, I've had a number of false starts to this thing, mainly because I already write quite a bit elsewhere, and there's a limit to how much I can talk about myself.This is intended to be a very infrequently updated blog. I will mainly use this to post notes and pictures that I wouldn't normally do in other venues.A special welcome to my friends at the Usenet group soc.sexuality.general (ssg) who

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